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I m sitting here at delhi airport wondering…on a day when you have time to kill..on a day when you can afford to get delayed..why does everything happen on time?! 
I am pretty excited that i m going to see the Taj Mahal for the first time! 🙂 a perfect fit for my only birthday rule:- to do something I ve never done before on every birthday (do you have any such rules…condition- they have to be exciting! lol i know..rule and exciting?!)
Speaking of exciting i wondered what must excite cabin crew? taking a trip!!? btw.. I do see a huge market for anti aging creams in the airline industry..very specifically our national carrier. It ll be a challenge for cosmetic giants to come up with creams that erase years of “grumping” and “frowning” 😉
And now here we are waiting for a couple of friends whose flight is expected to land an hour and half after ours.. and ours was, like I said.. on the dot!
so we decided to kill time by getting off the plane after everyone else had disembarked (killed 1 min 45 secs there) also avoided most of the travelators (killed 1 min 56 secs) counted the shiny specks in the marble granite thingie of the sink in the ladies loo :p (killed 26 secs..disappointing..i know!) next stop- baggage claim..ah! unfortunately and shockingly our bags were staring at us, lying belly up, like a happy dog in 4 mins 37 secs! so now the only option is to look at this  …


or this  …

imageSo with close to an hour and ten mins still left to kill i conclude that murphy must love me :p
murphy s law must work both ways…delays get longer and so do waits :p unfair..just like life itself 😉 so sit back and go with the flow! And yea Murphy n I wish you all a very Happy Diwali 😀


When was the last time you took a decision based more on your gut feeling than on the facts and figures available to you? Sometimes the road is pretty clear, some times we have to choose and at other times we have to make our own road.

So how do you go about it? May be you go with what you feel is right or may be you go the other way. i.e. with what you’re taught is right. But have you ever wondered why is it “either/or”? Why is it that, in a lot of situations, what we’re expected to do does not match what our instincts are telling us?

Case in point:- a friend of mine recently lost his father. Before uncle passed away, he fixed his son’s marriage to a girl of his choice. Now this friend of mine is caught between keeping his father’s word and marrying a girl of his own choice. Instinctively, he doesn’t want the arranged marriage. But his values, his love for his father, his responsibility towards his family… are pushing him to go ahead. It’s a tough decision. But it’s a matter of living with one’s choices.

And this isn’t the only scenario where there is a war between one’s instincts and responsibilities, there are so many situations in life where one would rather not be. Especially, in a culture where we are taught to think about what people might say, we are trained to undermine our own happiness. Unfortunately, we are educated to ignore our instincts repeatedly. And with enough practice we lose touch completely. But there is still hope. Your instincts don’t die..they just get muffled. All you have to do is listen. Calm your mind and listen to your heart. There is always a voice inside us telling us what we should do. We may not be in a position to take the “right call”. But then again, what is the right call? Learn to listen to your gut, and you will know. And once you’ve taken a decision, learn to trust it. Of course, it isn’t an easy road to take, coz your instincts are only yours, no one else can feel or understand them. Just the way your life is only your life. No one else is gonna live it for you. It’s yours .. to suffer or to thrive!

And one thing I know for certain, every single time I listen to my instincts, even if it’s tough initially, the result is always good. I believe that if we all listened to our instincts more, we would make better decisions and have lesser regrets.

Sometimes I wish I could change everything around me, me included.. in a few seconds. Then at times I wish time would stand still so that nothing would ever change..of course neither is possible! So I often much what I do on a daily basis matters to me…and where am I headed? There are so many questions we need to answer every single day…Can I do this? Can I afford this? Do I need this? Can I have this? Where should I go next? blah blah…But the question we ask most without realising how important it is, is this one…

“Is there enough time?”

We answer this question on a micro level every single day, to squeeze in the gazillion things we need to do before time runs out. But this question needs a larger perspective. It isn’t just about meeting deadlines at work. It’s about how much time we have until we meet our final deadline. Living in the here and now requires us to see the “bigger picture”. As Steve Jobs said, “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

So smile. Breathe. Pause. Think. Make time. Be. Say. Do. Call up the one you love and tell them that! Stretch your arms out and reach for your dreams. Make every moment count… make it worth a lifetime. Take charge of your life and become “Vector” 😉 …coz it’s not just the direction but also the magnitude of what we choose on a daily basis that we really need to think about. Start now… afterall, we ain’t got forever.

Look, we’ve found it, the moment our souls recognized each other…across space and time.
The physical distance between us seeming like fleeting moments, we came to be.

Against all that we had been taught, we let go of each other..and we belonged without owning.
You lit up my nights with stars, even the cloudiest ones.. my mornings felt yellow..warm and fuzzy like sunshine..
your marshmellows in hot chocolate! 🙂

Not wanting to ask for anything, all I ended up wanting was to be an exception in your life. That one beautiful experience that not only stood out, but the one that made all the difference. And you gave me that. Without so much as a passing thought, you surrendered.
My here and now shifted to where you the future.

Now I have one life…to taste, touch, feel, love, sin, breathe, devour, melt, lose, give in, blend, burn.. And I have one miracle, you…

So today, I will not run. I will sit down, hold your hand in mine..and let you hold my heart in yours. Coz I want you to be me my sorrows, in my joys, in my moments of ecstacy and desperate loneliness..I want you to be the witness to my life.
Coz with you, I’m home.

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