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I believe that our wounds carry in them, the power to heal. All we have to do is open up.

As a counselor, I help my clients work through a variety of issues. But one thing is common. They all need to be healed. And the process of healing is a difficult one. You can’t heal anything by hiding. And this applies to all kinds of wounds..physical and emotional.

For something to heal, you have to clean it first, and this is probably the most painful part, where they have to go into your wound to disinfect it. But once that’s done, it’s all TLC. One of my clients is a 12 year old girl Tikki* who’s dealing with the death of her only sister, who was also her best friend. Death of  a loved one, sudden or not, is a traumatic experience. It alters our core, it makes us humble, and it makes us realize that we don’t have forever. But how do you fill the “void”?

Each of us has his own way, but the void needs to be acknowledged first. Venting is crucial. Bottling up emotions can be toxic. Emotions need to flow, and purging can take some time. Watching this 12 year old angel pick herself up has been an awe inspiring experience for me. It wasn’t easy, it never is. But it’s important, and she did it. She allowed herself to heal.

Healing takes courage, faith, patience..and above all, willingness. And since we have to begin some day, why not begin today?

*Thank you Tikki (nickname) for granting me permission to share your story with everyone.


Sometimes I wish I could change everything around me, me included.. in a few seconds. Then at times I wish time would stand still so that nothing would ever change..of course neither is possible! So I often wonder..how much what I do on a daily basis matters to me…and where am I headed? There are so many questions we need to answer every single day…Can I do this? Can I afford this? Do I need this? Can I have this? Where should I go next? blah blah…But the question we ask most without realising how important it is, is this one…

“Is there enough time?”

We answer this question on a micro level every single day, to squeeze in the gazillion things we need to do before time runs out. But this question needs a larger perspective. It isn’t just about meeting deadlines at work. It’s about how much time we have until we meet our final deadline. Living in the here and now requires us to see the “bigger picture”. As Steve Jobs said, “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

So smile. Breathe. Pause. Think. Make time. Be. Say. Do. Call up the one you love and tell them that! Stretch your arms out and reach for your dreams. Make every moment count… make it worth a lifetime. Take charge of your life and become “Vector” 😉 …coz it’s not just the direction but also the magnitude of what we choose on a daily basis that we really need to think about. Start now… afterall, we ain’t got forever.

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