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Ever tried doing something? Of course you did! But then what happened? You did it? or you didn’t. Or you kept ‘trying’ to do it for a long long time. But here’s what matters:- while you were trying to do it, what was happening? What was the result? What happens when someone says they’ll try to make it for your party (or when you say it?!)

So what really counts is the result. Irrespective of the amount of effort you might be putting in, if it isn’t getting you where you wanna be, what’s the point? May be you need to change your tactics…or may be even change your goal. But, move…now! Coz the truth is, if you really want it, you’ll find a way to get it. And if you haven’t gotten it yet…hmmm.

So here’s an exercise for you:- take a pencil and place it on a table in front of you, now try lifting the pencil off the table with your hand. Go ahead, try it. NO, don’t pick it up, just ‘try’ to pick it up. Nah, come on! Don’t leave it on the table, ‘try’ to pick it up!! No?? So much for all the trying we fool ourselves into believing! Ah, well…. 😉

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If you do the right thing, but you do it for the wrong reason, does it count? The right thing here would be anything that is expected of you in that particular role in your life( things we are raised to believe are most important!) and the wrong reason would be doing it ONLY coz it’s expected of you, despite the fact that you don’t want to do it. Take a minute to think, how many things in your life fit into this category? 😉

So if you do it for the wrong reason, does it carry the same karmic ‘points’? By that I mean, does it have the same impact as an action done with complete congruence?

And if the reason matters, then have you taken a look at the reasons for all your actions, or atleast the ones you do most? Coz they end up defining your life..things like going to work, buying a house, entertaining relatives, being a good spouse, blah blah… it’s tricky too, coz we are so adept at fooling ourselves into believing that this is exactly what we wanted, so it’s perfect! But you know thats not true, when you find yourself wanting to want what you have…wondering when everything’s right, why do I feel like something’s missing?!

And If the ‘why’ doesn’t matter and you simply continue doing your duties and taking care of your responsibilities, does it make you happy? OR does it just keep you from feeling guilty, you know, helps you sleep at night? There’s a difference..a clear conscience doesn’t necessarily feed your soul. The soul craves joy! Of course, if we all went around doing things ONLY as and when we pleased, there would be chaos. So then, where does one draw the line? At what point do you stop doing the ‘right thing’ and start being happy?

Where did you draw the line?


 And sometimes… did you wish these two things were the same?


Ever felt humbled by the vastness of the ocean?… ever felt so at peace that everything seemed perfect?… ever felt insignificant under the starry sky on a clear night?…ever known someone with whom, the joy is so overwhelming that words were insufficient?

Yes! 🙂 It’s in moments like these that we truly live. Moments when you know from within that there is unlimited joy to experience (even though your logical mind might want to fight that thought!) You can still feel it, it’s a feeling of completeness, of just being.

But more often than not we are busy waiting…when life is already happening 😛 We have too many rules, too many conditions that limit us from experiencing bliss. We want things ..but we want them a certain way, at a certain time and only from certain people, why?

We have this habit of labeling a source and putting so much pressure on it to deliver, that sometimes we exhaust ourselves and everyone else! Instead, if you allow it, an emotion can come from any source, so long as it doesn’t harm or damage anything or anyone.

 

Joy is still joy. It may vary in degrees or the kind that we feel, from satisfaction to pleasure to ecstasy!  Like the heart melting joy, the unconditional love of my two year old niece brings to the nostalgic bliss I shared with a friend as we spent all night exchanging music from our childhood over an online chat!

Happiness is everywhere. It can be the delirious kind, an awe-inspiring moment or even just a smile. It’s upto you. It’s upto you if you want to feel it at all.

It was a very liberating experience for me when I learnt to look for joy in everything that I did and everyone that  I met 🙂 I realized how much I had missed, and decided not to miss out anymore. My niece reminds me that time shouldn’t be wasted..every single day! She comes to you and asks you for something, once, twice. If she doesn’t get it, she moves on to someone else in the house and repeats. Lol.

You might say that it isn’t as simple for us grownups though. But, trust me, you ll be amazed! Life is actually quite simple. And it is true what they say…what you seek is what you find! If you just open your mind and seek only joy..you will find a million sources that bring a million moments overflowing with joy! And those million will grow into a million more.

And when you find that one moment where it feels so good that you can’t stop smiling…. step outside of yourself and acknowledge it!

Make it a memory…coz you have just lived!

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